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I'm a single mom with two great kids living near Dallas, Texas. This is my life; day to day things that are probably only important to me. This is my record of my ups, my downs and the road that I've taken along the way. For whatever reason YOU'RE here, I hope you find something you can enjoy and/or relate to. God bless.

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Monday, December 12, 2005

A TWIST ON...Friends like Katy

I have some great friends. I love friends that know you all the way to your worst character trait and still love you, still lift you up and still make you laugh when you need it the most.
Tell me about one of your important 'life' moments and who you remember being there for you.

I'll start: Before prozac, years ago, when I was dangerously depressed and wouldn't talk to anyone, my sister would call me (long distance from Indiana and before the days of 'the famliy plans', lol) and make me talk or listen. I always hated when she'd (or anyone) would call, but she probably saved my life more than once.


Blogger mr_g said...

I've got a two friends I've know since we were 9 years old...that's over 380 years! We can not talk for a year or two and then pick up right where we left off like nothing happened. Definitely something to value deeply.

11:00 AM  
Blogger African girl, American world said...

You can be yourself and they still love you. And they don't put you on a pedestal and freak when you fall.
(((Hugs)))on this Monday morning :)

11:50 AM  
Blogger ~Deb said...

That's so important. That's definitely 'unconditional love'... You're blessed to have such a friend---and I know you have those same traits yourself. :)

12:32 PM  
Blogger HizzleThizzle said...

True friends are worth their weight in gold. The ones that tell you that its not the jeans making your ass look fat, its the snickers in your hand.

Or the ones who do the dirty work, and tell you the things that are the hardest to hear.

Heres to friends. May the road rise to meet you, may the sun be always at your back. May the sun fall softly on your friends, and my God shelter you softly in the palms of his hands til we meet again.

1:16 PM  
Blogger HizzleThizzle said...

Right. change the second sun to rain. Dammit when my fingers move faster than my brain.

1:17 PM  
Blogger HizzleThizzle said...

Right.. and that friends should be fields.

Okay. I give up. Im going to take a nap.

1:17 PM  
Blogger kathi said...

hizzle ~ I love you, you are sunshine! Is there any doubt why I call you 'hizzle-sweet-thizzle' . I adore you. Go to bed now.

deb ~ thanks, but you know no such thing...lol, I'm a bitch through and through. Why doesn't anyone ever believe me??

mish ~ Congrats and HUGS in order on YOUR end...Well done, girl!!

mr. g ~ An insightful man...gotta love that. And, I do. 380 years? Hon, you're such a goofball

1:33 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sometimes I sit and think to myself,
and I ask myself who my friends really are,
at times I tend to feel different from
everyone else.
Alot of times we argue and disagree,
but most of the time I feel
like all of the blame is on me.

Ruth Abigail Avila

i wrote this when i was younger during that "stage", when i moved out of my house..deep down i know everyone has a true friend in this world.

3:01 PM  
Blogger kathi said...

abi ~ Darlin, thank you so much for sharing that! I can picture you sitting alone and writing that, like I'd see you sitting alone and drawing. Girl, I love you so much. You need your own blog, hon. Next time you're over, we'll sit one up for you. So much talent for such a little bitty thing. :)

3:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks a bunch Kathi, your awesome. We have to do one next time I come by. I have others that i'd like to share w/you. I'll just need a min to look at them. Check out Poetry.com and just type in my first and last name, you'll see the other one i posted there. I remeber sitting there on the sidewalk just drawing away, you pops would always say "one day you will be an artist" and one day i will become something, well i hope it happens soon. LOVE YOU BUNCHES TOO!! :)


3:46 PM  
Blogger DZER said...

true words indeed :)

5:51 PM  
Blogger Salbert said...

Am I still your friend even though I haven't posted here in a while?

Merry Christmas (or Holidays),

The Sal & Company Team (just me)

6:45 PM  
Blogger Memphis Steve said...

Everyone needs more friends like that.

9:11 PM  
Blogger kathi said...

dzer ~ true words are the only ones I speak.

salbert ~ always my friend, and it's always Christmas here.

steve ~ Yup, agree completely.

9:17 PM  
Blogger Stacy-Deanne said...

I am sure you are a wonderful friend to have too, Kathi. I know what you mean. I have two best friends. One is my mother. The other is my friend from overseas. She lives in the islands. We met in 2001 and she is a true friend because she's been here through my struggling in the writing business to how my career and life has turned out now. I have helped her through some rough times. She used to be so depressed and there wasn't anyone but me she could turn to. Now, because I was there for her she is much stronger and now knows she deserves happiness and a decent life like anyone. She has helped me too. She said something that really broke it down for me. Her friends at home don't believe that we are friends because they can't believe she knows an author, well this is what she said, " I don't care what you think. I was her friend before she got published, I am her friend now and I will still be her friend when she is famous. " And she's right. Without her support I wouldn't have been able to accomplish such confidence. She is a TRUE friend to the end. I don't see us ever breaking apart. I thought the people I hung with in high school were true friends, some were but I never knew what a real friend was until I met my pal from overseas. She is truly a gift for anyone to have. Also, I know she is real unlike some people who only want to know me because of what I do and not necessarily because of whom I am. But don't worry, I can spot a fake friend a mile away, LOL! I loved this post!

11:12 PM  
Blogger bbsgirl said...

it sure is awesome to have a friend like that..and I'd have to agree that I bet you are that sort of a friend too.

11:38 PM  
Blogger Grace said...

Anybody who has 6 or more pets has got to be a great person and friend, right Kathi? I think so! As for myself, the only friend who I feel loves me unconditionally, is my sister. I don't know what I'd do without her in my life.
xoxo luv ya C!

1:21 AM  
Blogger Leesa said...

kathi: I was shocked to read one of your comments the other day. You thought I didn't like you. Strange; your posts have always lifted my spirits.

8:13 AM  
Blogger ~Deb said...

Getting the Kleenex out

You all gotta stop making me tear up over here!

To our friend Kathi (Now for some BAD poetry)

Kathi, you lift our spirits, you raise us up high
You make us randy; I cannot lie
Your words of wisdom have set us free
Won’t you leave hubby, and marry me?
We see your face—we automatically smile
We start to cry when you don’t post in a while
So please don’t go away for too long
Or I’ll have to make an audio blog, and sing you a song

And…you don’t want that.

10:17 AM  
Blogger Tom Serafini, Actor to the Stars! said...

Do tell...Man, you get way too many comments! And there isn't even a link to porn here!

11:07 AM  
Blogger Mike said...

Those are the best kind of friends to have.

11:15 AM  
Blogger kathi said...


11:46 AM  
Blogger ~Deb said...

Oh Kathi Kathi, why fight the way you feel
Your love for me is evident; it’s oh so real
Come to me, the blogger of my dreams
We’re a f*cked up match, so it seems
Run away with me, run to the hills
I’ll give you goose bumps; I’ll give you chills
Up your spine and down again
Just tell me where, and tell me when
We’ll meet again, in another comment box
Just know this—you’re an absolute fox!

Why are you on top of me again KATHI????

12:18 PM  
Blogger ~Deb said...

I'm an obsessed fan of Kathi!

KATHISM is real.

Oh hell, where's my meds!!?????

12:19 PM  
Blogger Leesa said...

~deb: sounds like you are very randy today.

12:49 PM  
Blogger joey♥ said...

that reminds me of this random quote from the movie meet joe black where a guy says about his wife something along the lines of, 'i know she loves me because she knows the worst possible thing about me and still loves me unconditionally.'

2:00 PM  
Anonymous blackops said...

Yes, I have some of those. Nice to have.

2:07 PM  
Blogger ~Deb said...

Why Leesa, don't you know that's just 'my nature'?????

Shall I write a love poem for ya?

2:38 PM  
Blogger Bill Jones, Jr said...

I brought the meds, but I can see I'm too late.

7:42 PM  
Anonymous Katy said...

A little bit about my friend Kathi that most of you are starting to understand. Kathi is the funniest loving, giving, caring person that I know. I know no one else that can make me laugh the way she can. I'm talking tears runnung down your face, ribs aching, make you forget all your troubles kind of laughing.
The girl has such a peacefulness about her. She does not ever seem to be worried about anything.
Kathi does have a flaw that some of you might have picked up on, she has a issue with her past. Now she embraces her past, accepts her past, will tell you anything you want to know about her past. She was a teenager who believed that she had no value in life and she lived her life that way for quite awhile. Kathi treated herself and let others treat her like she had no value.
God turned her around.It sounds like she gave God a run for the money too! She is the opposite of the former teenage self centered self hating person of her past.
Where was I going with this? I remember now her flaw.
Kathi has a hard time understanding how anyone and I mean anyone who knows her past would not turn tail and run!
She truly is surprised that she has anyone in her life that could possibly love and understand her.
Kathi, God saw value in you, He saved you. I thank God for his wisdom. You have such value to me.
Kathi I know you are going to hate that I wrote all this. But remember this - I could have gone on longer.

10:27 PM  
Blogger kathi said...

Katy ~ First of all...you butthead. :) Second, I had never thought of it this way: She was a teenager who believed that she had no value in life and she lived her life that way for quite awhile. Kathi treated herself and let others treat her like she had no value. Katy, after all the therapists that just scratched their heads at me - NO ONE said this, or inferred it. This makes so much sense to me. Thank you for this (sincerely, Katy, thank you).
With that said, you are such a better friend than I am and you know it. I learned a lot about being a friend from you.
I don't hate that you wrote this, but I was laughing thinking how much longer it could have been if I'd taught you how to copy and paste yesterday on the phone. LOL. I love you Katy.

6:05 AM  
Anonymous katy said...

You bring out the best in people. No such thing as a better friend than the other. Lets just call it a draw.
Life moments-
College- Been in the dorms for three weeks, student loan was delayed. Payment was due (100.00) pretty much decided I was going to have to pack it up and go home. A guy that I had met and talked to a few times who lived in the same dorm asked me one day what was wrong "I told him I was probably going to have to quit school." The next day he walked by me in the dinning hall and placed an envelope on my tray with my name on it. I opened the envelope and inside was 100 dollar bill. I looked at him and said why would you do this? You barely know me. He told me that he didn't want me to leave that he wanted time to get to know me.
He has been the love of my lif and my husband for 22years now.
Yes, I payed him back when the student loan finally came in.

7:24 AM  
Blogger Leesa said...

katy: I love the story. I love the story.

7:40 AM  
Blogger kathi said...

katy ~ goosebumps!! Kelly is such a great guy! Wanna trade?

8:01 AM  
Blogger Charles X said...

i havent been here in a minute, but i need to come here more often. i always get a warm feeling while on this blog. im a fan!

9:32 AM  
Blogger African girl, American world said...

when I find the solution I'll let you know..you were my first smile this morning and I needed it :)

Sadly I don't have that one friend in my life but like you my family gets me thru - my brother is a god send...too much unsolicited advice but it least he listens

9:38 AM  
Blogger Shawn said...

I thought everyone was supposed to share their own life moment? Did I misread the post?

10:23 AM  
Blogger ~Deb said...

Kathi, even before Katy posted this- I already knew these things about you. It's apparent that people get that 'vibe' from you. You're 'real', and it shows. We all feel like we know you.

The twist of your post is interesting as well.

One of my most fondest memories of a 'friend being there for me'...was when I had an emotional breakdown due to a break up with my ex. I remember coming back home with my best friend Lisa, from a great night out. I had some alcohol in me--wait---make that A LOT--and I sat down on the floor and cried hysterically, almost convulsing. I never cried like that in my life.

My friend Lisa sat on the floor next to me, holding me so tight, to stop me from shaking. She didn't leave my side that evening, and kept me calm.

I'll never forget that. If I had never met my friend Lisa, I would have probably 'died' that night.

She saved my life.

10:25 AM  
Blogger kathi said...

No, Shawn, you didn't misread it. That's what I asked for.

10:29 AM  
Blogger Charles X said...

LOL! embrace the deb

10:43 AM  
Blogger ~Deb said...

Awe, c'mere Charles & give me a big ol' hug!

Kathi- wasn't there a post here?

*Looking around*

Wasn't there another post--did you delete a post?



2:52 PM  
Blogger kathi said...

deb ~ hon...there are yet a SECOND vase of flowers on your table for display and I'm just curious...how many times have you read in my blog that I've received flowers from...anyone??? Therefore, my sweet, smartassed friend, if there are flowers anywhere to be found, they'd be at your house.
Leesa, could you pass me a tissue.

4:43 PM  
Blogger Georgiapeach said...

My sisters too Kathi.
I don't know where I would be without my sisters.
Also in my 12th grade year there were a few teachers at the secondary high school I attended who helped guide me into the right path. I mean, for years teachers would dismiss me and put me down. But these teachers actually talked to me. Help me sort of my problems and gave me courage and faith to do something with my life. I don't know where I would be without them either. Great post Kathi. Thanks for stirring these feeling Kathi now I am about to cry.
I guess I need to think about the people who have helped me along the way. Again great post.

6:14 PM  
Blogger Shawn said...

I like to grieve most everything quietly and alone. Lots of people have been there for me but it's hard for me to recall a time when I 'let' someone pick me up while I was feeling extremely down, vulnerable, scared and overwhelmed. I'll keep thinking. Maybe one special moment will come clearly into mind's eye. hmmm!!

7:16 PM  
Blogger Bill Jones, Jr said...

Up until around 10 years ago, I was quite a negative person. I never saw myself as I wanted to be. Then I met a friend at work, who just decided I was. At first, I thought she was phony. Then, I thought she was sweet, but misguided.

But over the course of about two years, virtually every encounter I had with her was positive, and encouraging. She simply chose to see me for who I could be. Eventually, that's how I learned to see myself... not for my flaws, but for my potential.

Now, we both consider her to be my favorite sister. I tell her that she changed my life, and she still can't for the life of her understand why.

Now, my approach to others is basically to be like my friend. Sometimes, one person can change your life, simply by changing how you see it.

And Kathi, my sweet, I believe you are one of those rare people too. Your friendship is a gift. Who needs Christmas?

7:31 PM  
Blogger ~Deb said...

Kathi dearest, if I lived in Texas, I would rush over with a bouquet of flowers to show my love for you...the problem is...your husband would kick my lesbo ass all the way back to NY. Then my girlfriend would kick it back to Texas. I can't win. *sigh*

Can someone hand ME a tissue???

9:49 PM  
Blogger kathi said...

Wow, some great sharing going on here. Thank you so much.

deb ~ I, too, am grateful for Lisa. It's so hard to physically stay with someone when they're hurting so badly. She's got a great heart.

georgia p ~ I'm thankful for your sisters too. And teachers that refuse to allow a student to fall through the cracks are angels, I'm glad you had them there for you too.

shawn ~ I'm the same way when it comes to grieving. Each time I've lost a parent, it seems like people come out of the woodwork wanting to tell you how sorry they are. I just want to be left alone and even when I tell people that, some refuse to believe it and come anyway. So, I completely understand darlin. But, how about a friend that lifted you up when you felt like crawling?

sable ~ I can understand how someone would see the good in you regardless of the shell you had on display. I'm thankful for that friend that saw the best in you, because I so enjoy the person she helped bring into being.

10:00 PM  
Blogger Brea said...

What a great post! I'll save you the book...

3:59 AM  
Blogger kathi said...

brea ~ thanks darlin. Hey, I stopped by and saw some of your new pics, you're such a doll!

10:55 AM  
Blogger Bhakti said...

I was stuck in my apartment in the East Village, NYC on September 11th. I was scared to death. My cousin Chrissy, who lives in New Jersey, called me about every hour to see if I was okay. I'll never forget her for that.

3:05 PM  

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