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I'm a single mom with two great kids living near Dallas, Texas. This is my life; day to day things that are probably only important to me. This is my record of my ups, my downs and the road that I've taken along the way. For whatever reason YOU'RE here, I hope you find something you can enjoy and/or relate to. God bless.

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Tuesday, November 28, 2006

Best Post I've Ever Posted

What you're about to read, I read this morning on a blog that was new to me. The author's name is Nancy and I've linked her in hopes that every one of you that stop by this silly piece that I put together will visit her blog and read what real heart put into words is like. One of the posts that I read touched me so much, that I shared it with both of my boys this morning, and we all had tears in our eyes. I hope you'll read what I've borrowed from her post, but even more so, I hope you'll watch the video that gives the words all that much more realism. It's something that you will never forget, I know that we never will here at the Bratcher home.


Team Hoyt
Sports Illustrated, by Rick Reilly

I try to be a good father. Give my kids mulligans. Work nights to pay for their text messaging. Take them to swimsuit shoots. But compared with Dick Hoyt, I suck.
Eighty-five times he's pushed his disabled son, Rick, 26.2 miles in marathons. Eight times he's not only pushed him 26.2 miles in a wheelchair but also towed him 2.4 miles in a dinghy while swimming and peddled him 112 miles in a seat on the handlebars--all in the same day. Dick's also pulled him cross-country skiing, taken him on his back mountain climbing and once hauled him across the U.S. on a bike. Makes taking your son bowling look a little lame, right?

And what has Rick done for his father? Not much--except save his life.

This love story began in Winchester, Mass., 43 years ago, when Rick was strangled by the umbilical cord during birth, leaving him brain-damaged and unable to control his limbs. "He'll be a vegetable the rest of his life," Dick says doctors told him and his wife, Judy, when Rick was nine months old. "Put him in an institution."But the Hoyts weren't buying it. They noticed the way Rick's eyes followed them around the room. When Rick was 11 they took him to the engineering department at Tufts University and asked if there was anything to help the boy communicate. "No way," Dick says he was told. "There's nothing going on in his brain." "Tell him a joke," Dick countered. They did. Rick laughed. Turns out a lot was going on in his brain.

Rigged up with a computer that allowed him to control the cursor by touching a switch with the side of his head, Rick was finally able to communicate. First words? "Go Bruins!" And after a high school classmate was paralyzed in an accident and the school organized a charity run for him, Rick pecked out, "Dad, I want to do that."Yeah, right. How was Dick, a self-described "porker" who never ran more than a mile at a time, going to push his son five miles? Still, he tried. "Then it was me who was handicapped," Dick says. "I was sore for two weeks."

That day changed Rick's life. "Dad," he typed, "when we were running, it felt like I wasn't disabled anymore!" And that sentence changed Dick's life. He became obsessed with giving Rick that feeling as often as he could. He got into such hard-belly shape that he and Rick were ready to try the 1979 Boston Marathon. "No way," Dick was told by a race official. The Hoyts weren't quite a single runner, and they weren't quite a wheelchair competitor. For a few years Dick and Rick just joined the massive field and ran anyway, then they found a way to get into the race officially: In 1983 they ran another marathon so fast they made the qualifying time for Boston the following year.

Then somebody said, "Hey, Dick, why not a triathalon?" How's a guy who never learned to swim and hadn't ridden a bike since he was six going to haul his 110-pound kid through a triathalon? Still, Dick tried. Now they've done 212 triathlons, including four grueling 15-hour Ironmans in Hawaii. It must be a buzzkill to be a 25-year-old stud getting passed by an old guy towing a grown man in a dinghy, don't you think?

Hey, Dick, why not see how you'd do on your own? "No way," he says. Dick does it purely for "the awesome feeling" he gets seeing Rick with a cantaloupe smile as they run, swim and ride together.

This year, at ages 65 and 43, Dick and Rick finished their 24th Boston Marathon, in 5,083rd place out of more than 20,000 starters. Their best time? Two hours, 40 minutes in 1992--only 35 minutes off the world record, which, in case you don't keep track of these things, happens to be held by a guy who was not pushing another man in a wheelchair at the time.

"No question about it," Rick types. "My dad is the Father of the Century." And Dick got something else out of all this too. Two years ago he had a mild heart attack during a race. Doctors found that one of his arteries was 95% clogged. "If you hadn't been in such great shape," one doctor told him, "you probably would've died 15 years ago." So, in a way, Dick and Rick saved each other's life.

Rick, who has his own apartment (he gets home care) and works in Boston, and Dick, retired from the military and living in Holland, Mass., always find ways to be together. They give speeches around the country and compete in some back breaking race every weekend, including this Father's Day. That night, Rick will buy his dad dinner, but the thing he really wants to give him is a gift he can never buy. "The thing I'd most like," Rick types, "is that my dad sit in the chair and I push him once."

22 Comments:

Blogger Lisa said...

So glad you found Nancy....her writings are amazing and I won't be the least bit surprised when her book comes out. (Nevermind that I don't think she's writing a book....I still foresee it by popular demand. No pressure Nancy....lol)

Everytime I watch this video I cry. I don't have words to describe the emotions...but I do know beyond a shadow of a doubt that it's one of the most amazing things I've ever seen and each and every time I am humbled.

5:51 PM  
Blogger Read This said...

I did not feel like crying, so I saved the video for a time when I want to be sad, or happy, or something else than I am right now.

6:22 PM  
Blogger Margie said...

I actually was at Nancy's site yesterday, and watched the video!
I had plenty of tears!
Now, here I am watching it again, and cannot stop the tears from flowing once again!
I am so very astounded by this incredible man, and father!
I have never been a witness to so much love...between father and son!
It is just too beautiful!
Thanks for sharing it here Kathi!

Margie

7:05 PM  
Blogger Michelle said...

Their story is truly amazing. When we lived in Massachusetts we got to see alot of them on the news because they lived their too, and everytime I was in awe of their lives. And two weeks ago at church they showed a different video of them, actually one more incredible than this one if you can imagine it, and the whole congregation was in tears. What a testament to love and devotion this father is!!

8:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This was awesome. It brought tears to my eyes, great post, Kathi.

xoxo
Abi

8:48 AM  
Blogger Nancy said...

Now you are making me cry! I see you linked to the WSA on your Make a Difference section.

Through all of the pain we have endured with our diagnosis, I know I'm lucky to have a little boy who can communicate with me so well and is healthy so far. The video made me realize that Erik will have dreams, too, and that maybe I will have the honor of helping them come true. If that doesn't keep me going, nothing will. As an added bonus, my faith in humanity has been restored from the support I have from people like you.

Lisa, I'm not sure what I would write about if I wrote a book, but you will be in the dedication for motivating me! I'm not sure how you found me, but THANK YOU for finding me and helping me find Kathi and everybody you led me to!

Much love,
Nancy

10:49 AM  
Blogger Shawn said...

very moving!!!!

12:14 PM  
Blogger Johnnie Avocado said...

Yeah, I've seen alot on these guys. That dad has the heart of a lion. Thanks for the post.

1:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That is the ultimate show of love. It shows me how a father should love his son. Definitely something I will hold in heart!

6:22 PM  
Blogger DaBich said...

I've seen this once before. How can one NOT cry???
I must go by to visit Nancy!

3:40 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was so moved by the pure love openly displayed by this father for his son, I think about how much I love the people in my life all the time. I really need to work harder at openly expressing my love for them. We all must make the best of the small amount of time we have with each other.

7:42 AM  
Blogger Edith said...

That is such an awesome story - I've seen it before. Wow....gives me chills just thinking about it.

12:18 PM  
Blogger Deb said...

Amazing. And yes, I did cry watching this. These two are truly a team helping one another... It really makes you think how much motivation and zest they have for life, while some people are perfectly physically healthy, yet don't live life to its fullest. These two certainly do!

Thanks for sharing this Kathy... And the song that went with it is one of my favorites! :) Beautiful!

2:15 PM  
Blogger sassinak said...

i tagged you... tomorrow i'llr ead this post ... night! :)

12:03 AM  
Blogger Random Musings said...

Wow this was beautiful.
What love, what courage.
And yes I cried. Do you mind if I share this?

10:22 PM  
Blogger kathi said...

random ~ not at all, please do.

12:02 AM  
Blogger Read This said...

Lazy ass kids today. Always wanting to sit instead of run. Ok, seriously they are both heroes. I was as impressed with the one as I was the other. A symbiotic relationship drawn out of tragedy, but forged in love. Thanks kathi.

9:42 AM  
Blogger sassinak said...

aw kathi... i'm like crying over here... that was beautiful, thanks!

6:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hello. Good day
Who listens to what music?
I Love songs Justin Timberlake and Paris Hilton

2:35 AM  
Blogger DaBich said...

Paris hilton? YOu're joking, right?

4:34 AM  
Blogger Leesa said...

kathi,

I saw this post a while back. Not yours, but hers. I had never heard of Williams syndrome, and some of her posts are just amazing. Can you imagine giving someone such a gift - to make someone not feel handicapped. What a gift. Crying every time I think about it. What a gift.

8:20 AM  
Blogger ALL ABOUT YOU said...

liked it so much!

10:28 AM  

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