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I'm a single mom with two great kids living near Dallas, Texas. This is my life; day to day things that are probably only important to me. This is my record of my ups, my downs and the road that I've taken along the way. For whatever reason YOU'RE here, I hope you find something you can enjoy and/or relate to. God bless.

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Monday, June 05, 2006

Is That Too Much To Ask?

There are times and places that I've just got to refrain myself...because I really don't think I'd bode well in jail. I don't play well with others, and I'm not very good at following directions.

Here are a few of my problems with others:

I understand that it's each persons right to smoke. I choose not to, and I choose not to have my children or myself around it. For one thing, it triggers migraines for me and for another, the smell is just damn hard to get rid of. So why is it when people smoke, they keep it extended out of their own confined space, therefore spreading it into mine? I pull up to a stop light and there is a car around me where the occupants are smoking. Do they keep it in their car with the windows rolled up? No. The windows are down with the cigarette extended outside the car. Regardless if my windows are rolled up or not, it's in my car. Same thing with my home. My neighbors smoke, but only outside their home. I understand it's hard to get the smell out of your curtains and furniture...because it's now in mine every time I open my windows for fresh air. And for God's sake, can you please keep your nasty ole' butts out of my yard, is that too much to ask?

I'm not picky with my music. I'll listen to just about anything. I've even found a song or two of country that is iPod worthy. But, do I have to listen to yours? I fully understand it being a great day outside and wanting to have the windows down while you're driving and your music blaring...it's a great part of life. We all deserve that. But when you're parked, say in a grocery lot or across the street from my house, would you mind either rolling your windows up or turning it down enough where it's for your listening pleasure? Seriously, is that too much to ask?

We are all different, thank God. Otherwise, what a boring place if everyone was like me. Boring and unfriendly, but that's another post. So, I appreciate differences. I appreciate different intellects, different opinions, different languages. I appreciate them and I respect them. So, please do not force yours on me. If everyones was the same as yours, face it, you'd still find something to force down my throat. Whether it was that my favorite color was blue while yours was red (am I an idiot? How could I possibly like blue instead of red?) or that I'm republican while you're simply irresponsible, no wait, I mean democrat...yeah, that's what I meant. We learn from each other, not just from you. God didn't clone Adam and Eve, He enabled them to come together to produce someone unique and worthy in their own right. Try learning instead of constantly teaching, please...is that too much to ask?

If you have something you honestly know in your heart that you can't take care of, find whatever it is a good home where it can grow, be loved, be protected and be given the basics that every living thing deserves. I don't care whether it's a child, an animal or a house plant. If you can't (or won't) care for it, please put your selfishness aside and admit that you're not in a place where you can provide for it. Every living thing deserves a chance to be loved, deserves the chance to live and grow daily without being starved for food or affection, without being neglected. Life of every sort deserves to be respected...is that too much to ask?

If you're wrong, admit it. There's no reason to get angry at the person who was right, simply because they were right. Why is it so hard for someone to say "Wow, I got that all wrong, sorry"? Does it take away your strength somehow? Does it make you seem less intelligent to admit a mistake? When the error is already revealed, does getting angry and treating someone poorly somehow make you more right? It's human to make mistakes...big ones, small ones and my kind; stupid ones. Admitting it doesn't make the matter worse, but it will earn you more respect. If you're wrong, own up to it...is that too much to ask?


Anonymous Anonymous said...

There are alot of things that people dont agree to, that others are doing. They control their own actions, but I completly understand what you are trying to say, SHOW some respect to others, not just yourself. And you'll get respect back.


7:43 AM  
Blogger Casually Me said...

A great post kathi..I think you could tell someone to kiss your ass, and they would walk away feeling good about the whole situation. We do differ though...
1. Second hand smoke. Do you know how much those smokes cost? They are giving you the smoke for free. No holds barred, asking nothing in return. When you get a free lunch, do you ask for change? You don't have to go through the trouble of buying them, unwrapping, lighting it up, and disposing of the butts. All you have to do is breathe, and maybe die a horribly painful death...is that too much to ask?
2. Picking on the deaf and hard of hearing is just going to far, in my book...missy. They can't hear their music now because they were forced to wear headphones in school, and it damaged their hearing. None of this is their fault, and now you want them to turn it down...so you can have peace of mind...tsk..tsk...lol.
3. Even I couldn't argue about not being able to take care of something, let it go. I agree completely. I had a joke here, butI know you like to keep it PG or lower, so I will refrain from my normal vulgarities.
4. I find it easier to admit when others are wrong. It really takes the pressure off of me.

You know I am playing with you. Loved this post of yours...

8:12 AM  
Blogger United We Lay said...

I can't stand the smell of smoke, especially now that I'm pregnant, and the neighborhood kids tend to sit in front of our house and smoke. It dirves me nuts!

As for music, I'll lsiten to very little country and raop, but everythign else is good. Rap has merit because it's created a culture for kids that they don't really have. Americans don't really have a defined sense of culture, and kids need definition. If we don't give it to them, they find it somewhere else.

8:56 AM  
Blogger Clay said...

smoking is so nasty to me ... people just huff and puff it wears me out

12:58 PM  
Blogger kathi said...

abi ~ yeah, you could believe that...or you could believe what I'm trying to say is quit being such a jerk. :)

tom ~ thank you. :) Thanks for keeping it pg'ish, and yeah, I always know when you're playing with me. Hugs guy

united ~ congrats on the pregnancy! That's when it was the worst for me too, and back then they didn't have the 'no smoking' in restaurants. I threw up in every restaurant in a 50 mile radius. Good times.

clay ~ nasty..exactly.

2:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

oh I know exactly what you mean when you say things, if your serious or not. Remember I lived ACROSS the street from you for YEARS!!


4:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

People who are so caught up in ego that they can't admit their mistakes are completely emotionally retarded. My ex REFUSED to EVER admit he was wrong or apologize. Naturally that didn't fly with me and his ass wound up on the streets. All he had to do was pull his head from out of his behind and we could have tried. Oh yeah, but this post isn't about me. LOL

-The Head Chef-

5:34 PM  
Blogger sassinak said...

kathi i have to say that i think you are probably growing up some fantastic kids... and i really like this post

united try telling them that... i find if you ask kids something with respect AND tell them why they'll often react okay. this assumes that it's always the same kids...

7:52 PM  
Blogger Anne said...

This was a great post Kath..I cant say any of it better than you did!

10:09 PM  
Blogger kathi said...

abi ~ yeah, you know me and yet you still love me. :)

head chef ~ yup, my husband suffers from this as well...but not as much as he should, if you know what I mean. :)

sass ~ thanks darlin, means a lot to me.

anne ~ thank you, and I bet you could!

10:40 PM  
Blogger Mike said...

Pretty good post Kathi...I find I'm often wrong...but it's a male gene problem.

11:46 PM  
Blogger kathi said...

mike ~ yeah, I know...I find you're often wrong, too. :) C'mon, you left that door wide open, lol.

6:15 AM  
Blogger Shawn said...

very true especially when it comes to music. It drives me crazy.

6:59 AM  
Blogger Leesa said...

I am back. Thanks for the comment.

I guess the smoking comment is a respect thing. I have heard that smokers don't even like the smoke part of the addiction.

7:57 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

yes Kathi I still do


8:41 AM  
Blogger The Real Kidd said...

What a great post Kathi! You do so have a way with words.

9:28 AM  
Blogger Mark Smith said...

Hey, yeah um... I am so glad that you can't smoke in the inside here in Chicago.
I guess you can't answer some of my five questions on my blog. lol nice story...

3:52 PM  
Blogger kathi said...

shawn ~ yeah, like they can't enjoy it till they know they've got everyones attention.

leesa ~ was a tad bit worried about you. :)

abi ~ and I love you too.

kidd ~ thank you, glad you liked it.

mark ~ peaking my interest, huh? Okay doke.

4:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey now, I'm a dude and I'll just say that's it's SO much easier to admit when you're wrong.... than to put up with all the crap if you can't :)

I am in agreement hun. Missed ya!

9:14 PM  
Blogger Leesa said...

I really like this post, and I so agree with you about caring for something, or give to someone who will :)

9:54 PM  
Blogger SmileDragon said...

Kathi, I agree, smokers should be considerate of the people around them! I'm a smoker, and I make it a point to make sure I am not around any non smokers when I go to have MY 'bad habit'. I was planning to quit before my b-day, but with all the recent stress I've just not had the energy to try. *ugh*

Great post!

11:13 PM  
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11:13 PM  
Blogger joey♥ said...

and i raise a big toast to you, kathi. i couldn't agree with you more. although, i don't really mind smoking people. just when they blow smoke in my face. blech.

1:58 AM  
Blogger DZER said...

there is such a lack of respect and consideration for others these days. I'm totally with you there.

And the world would be a much better place if people would not just admit their mistakes, but accept responsiblity for them and be accountable. You truly can learn from your mistakes, but only if you accept that you messed up first.

I blame it on politicians and elected officials always casting blame on others, or deflecting mistakes as no big deal, almost as if they didn't make them and, if they did, that it wasn't their fault.

Wouldn't it be nice to hear Bush or Rumsfeld say: OK, we admit it. We messed up on the whole WMD thing. We were totally wrong and we're very sorry, and now our focus is going to be on getting our boys home safe.

2:54 AM  
Blogger kathi said...

wes ~ yes, darlin', you definitely are a dude.

leesa ~ thanks, and somehow I knew that would be one you'd agree with too.

crystal ~ yup, you've had a hard week, but it's all looking up and that is truly a blessing considering the direction things could have gone...with your bro and your job. So quit whining and quit smoking, lol. I say that cause I love ya.

joey ~ as always, you're just so sweet babe.

dzer ~ awwwww, you get me...you really get me. :) Big hug guy!

6:00 AM  
Blogger SmileDragon said...

Kathi, I know, there is no real reason for me still smoking except that I havne't taken that step yet. Just gotta get there mentally.

And, yes it is a blessing, everything that turned out ok! I am grateful for every day that I am here, and that I have my loved ones with me. :)


8:16 AM  
Blogger :phil: said...

Smoking gets me too. I hate having to walk into a building and run the gauntlet of smokers. At least in NY and NJ they can't smoke in restaurants. I have a neighbor who is constantly making noise. For months it was his giant dogs barking all day because he was out. When he got home he would spray them with the water hose to make them stop. I left him a letter in his mail box telling him to keep his dogs quiet or I would call the town (not to mention the ASCPA) The barking stopped, not sure how, but it did. He now has new dogs. His latest thing is working on some piece of junk car all night so I hear the motor reving and can smell the exhaust, or he's power washing his fence at 9 pm at night. I have a CD with all sound effects on it. I feel like making one with jet engine sounds and looping it and leave it on while I go to work but I'd be stooping to his level.
He's a *%$#@*.
I'm going off topic here, some people just are thoughtless

7:30 AM  

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