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I'm a single mom with two great kids living near Dallas, Texas. This is my life; day to day things that are probably only important to me. This is my record of my ups, my downs and the road that I've taken along the way. For whatever reason YOU'RE here, I hope you find something you can enjoy and/or relate to. God bless.

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Thursday, September 21, 2006

Committed

1 Corinthians 6:18: Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.
19: Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;
20: you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.


Last night was the Dad's Ring Ceremony at Fellowship Church, where we attend. There were a 130 teenagers that, of their own choosing, accepted a ring promising their parents, themselves and God, that they would keep themselves sexually pure for marriage. Casey chose to participate. He actually told me that he'd made this decision last year and wanted to do it at last years ceremony, but didn't get signed up for it in time. * I should make it clear that the 'Dad' in Dad's Ring Ceremony is God the Father.

There were over 300 people there last night to celebrate their child's, grandchild's and friend's choice. They started it off with the band (I love this band, Christian Rock) singing the old Beatles song 'Revolution' and everyone was singing. I'm sure many parents were remembering how different we were from the kids we were standing next to when this song was new. Then there was a video of the teens from the church being interviewed regarding sex. I love the way the church brought the subject of sex into real world understanding. They asked kids if they thought sex was "dirty" in the video. This brought back a lot of memories for me that I'd forgotten, because that's exactly what my mom use to say that sex was. It was something you didn't talk or think about. How realistic is that?

What the church was stressing to the kids was that sex is something that God created, it's an expression of love and it is a beautiful thing. One way they described it last night was that it's similar to when it's near Christmas, and the tree is surrounded by beautifully wrapped presents...and like we all did as kids, you beg to open them up before Christmas morning. If we were allowed to open one up whenever we wanted, when Christmas morning came, it wouldn't be as special. There wouldn't be anything waiting for us under the tree, no excitement of opening anything up. I, for one, could relate to this because I'd opened everything up and rewrapped it before Christmas morning so that no one knew what I'd done, and Christmas morning was never anything special for me. It was pretty much the same as the morning before and like all the mornings to come. This is, also, the view I came to have about sex through my life. It never really meant anything special.

They didn't pressure the kids at all to participate, they wanted them to know it's a personal choice and that it's between you and God. Casey chose to do it, Charlie didn't. The ceremony was a huge celebration. It reminded me of a graduation. The child's name was called and they and their parent would walk on stage, the parent put the ring on their child's wedding ring finger and then walk off stage. Every time someone walked on stage, kids in the seats were whooping and hollering, clapping and shouting. It was a celebration. I cried, and I was just one of many that did. When we were on stage and I put the ring on Casey's finger, he hugged me and told me he loved me. I cried. I held him and told him that he was a better person than I've ever been, that I loved him with all my heart and that I was so proud of him. Then we walked off stage. When kids walked off stage there were friends waiting to hug them, letting them know they weren't alone in this (or in life) and how happy they were for the choice they'd made. It was one of the coolest things I've done with my kids.

After the ceremony, the band started playing and the kids all went to the front of the stage and danced like they were at a punk rock concert. Kids were jumping up and down, pumping their fists in the air and some had tears rolling down their faces. I saw parents with tears in their eyes too.

Casey and I had our picture taken afterwards and I'll post that when we get it. We went to On the Border to celebrate (Casey's choice). I love this little family of ours. We are blessed beyond words, and I am so thankful for these amazing kids that God has given me.

I do have pictures from the church and of Casey's ring, but blogger isn't cooperating. The ring is gorgeous, a gift from the church. It's silver with black shading. There is engraving on the outside of the ring, in Greek or Hebrew, don't know for sure. On the inside it's engraved '1 Cor 6:19' which is: Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; and I loved this.

It was a very special night for us, for all of us.

22 Comments:

Anonymous Katy said...

I have such tears of joy for you guys, thanks for making me cry again!
love you.

10:19 AM  
Blogger The Real Kidd said...

Oh wow Kathi. That all sounds so amazing!! ((hug))

10:44 AM  
Blogger kathi said...

katy ~ yeah, well...you should have seen me last night, I was a mess. A happy mess, but a mess all the same. I love you too.

kidd ~ it was definitely amazing. So many kids! It was pretty cool. Hugs right back at'cha girl. :)

10:50 AM  
Blogger HuneeB said...

Kathi this is such a beautiful and awesome thing! I have never heard of a church doing such a thing, I wish more did! I am so proud that Casey decided to make that choice, it may be a long road for him but I am so proud! I think he will be glad that he made this choice to keep something sacred for that special person. There is something to be said for that

11:21 AM  
Blogger Johnnie Avocado said...

Kathi,
This sounds awesome. I'm so glad you did it. Did you do the promise and take a ring too? Just a thought....

11:27 AM  
Blogger kathi said...

huneeb ~ thanks, I'm so proud of him. Tears were flowing. :)

johnnie ~ okay, wise guy...I was actually thinking the same thing last night at the ceremony. Wondering how many parents there, if they were single, would make the same promise. Me? Yeah, I'm pretty sure I could make it. :)

12:16 PM  
Blogger ~Deb said...

Can I be honest here? I think it’s wonderful that your son took that vow. I also don’t think it’s realistic though. Think about this, …what if your son falls madly in love with a girl later on, and they both decide that ‘sex’ is the next step. But the love they have makes it all the more better—it’s not the type of sex that people “cruise” for. Now, realistically speaking, no woman will marry a man without finding out the ‘goods’ first. His vow to you is important. That’s fine, however, waiting until your married may be the wrong choice. Is it the better choice? I don’t know. Everyone’s different. All I know is, sex between two people who are madly in love with one another is beautiful. Anything beyond that is just…plain ol’ sex.

12:50 PM  
Blogger LoveLladro said...

That is quite possibly the coolest thing I have ever heard of.

2:41 PM  
Blogger kathi said...

deb ~ lol, of course you can be honest here...like anyone could stop you? (you're too much like me, and I know that I can't be stopped)

First, I don't know about you, but as for me...I made all the wrong choices. All the wrong choices. I do believe that people tend to think they are madly in love when passion is high...when crushes are fresh ("a crush rush") and lust is in full force.
I asked Casey if he'd only marry a girl if she were a virgin too, and he said 'NO', that it wouldn't matter to him. This was his choice.
Working in the schools for the last 10 years or so, seeing how common it is for girls to give oral in the class rooms, so much so that they can no longer turn off the lights for films...I know how casual sex is for todays teens. Maybe when they're older, it'll be more important to them and they'll be able to make a better call...but for right now, I think it's really cool that there are some that are willing to stand up and be different, to make a commitment, and wear something that shows the world that they are not only willing, but wanting to wait till it's the real thing.
Would I be disappointed if he decides not to wait...not at all. Like he said, it's his choice, it's between him and God.

3:28 PM  
Blogger kathi said...

lovelladro ~ I think so too, it's a bold step in today's youth.

3:31 PM  
Blogger Epsilonicus said...

You got me tearing up!!

10:04 PM  
Blogger DaBich said...

What a wonderful ceremony! I've never heard of this. COngrats to Casey, he's made you proud yet again.
(P.S. ~ Genna has some new posts with pics)

4:58 AM  
Blogger ~Deb said...

Oh, don't get me wrong, I think it's GREAT if he goes through with it, and especially making a commitment to God...and to his mother. I think it's very honorable. I just have that little ping of 'hmm is this realistic'? I hope it is. There's a lot of carelessness out there, and if he can avoid it---that's a blessing right there.

Hope you weren't offended by my comment. :) I just 'think' too much. (as you already know)

Love you! xxoo

7:35 AM  
Blogger Leesa said...

Did this come from the "promise keepers" movement? Probably not, but a bit similar.

10:23 AM  
Blogger samuru999 said...

Very touching!

3:07 PM  
Blogger kathi said...

epsilonicus ~ silly guy.

dabich ~ yup, he has, and thanks for the update, head that way now.

deb ~ girl, you can't be serious. You know I treasure you and welcome your thoughts...even if they're wrong, LOL, kidding!!.

leesa ~ I don't know. I've heard great things about that, though. But they don't mention it in connection with the Dad's ring ceremony. Can't start too young, though, teaching them the importance of commitment.

samuru999 ~ thanks sweetie.

7:31 AM  
Blogger ~ Amanda X&O said...

So very very cool, and your church did a good job of explaining sex to the teens in a way they could understand.

8:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have promised many things to get sex, never to not get sex. I am willing to try anything. Sign me up. How does this work? Celibacy to get sex. Hmmm...oh you need another kitten.

9:34 PM  
Blogger Shawn said...

I've never heard of anything like this before. Sounds pretty exciting.

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