Out of Fear
There are things in life that we want, sometimes desperately, and yet we hold on to something that holds us back from what our heart desires. Like a person who, out of fear, will not jump from a burning building and is consumed in the fire, sometimes we cling to what we know and, out of fear, miss the best that God has for us.
There is the woman who cries herself to sleep after a long day of abuse (whether it's mental, emotional or physical, the heart can't differentiate between them) and yet stays because it's what she knows. Is there a better life outside the prison that has become her life? She may never know because of her fear of the unknown.
There is the man who stays with a job he's never been happy with because of the fear of starting over somewhere else. The woman who knows there is something wrong, but will not go to the doctor out of fear of an abnormal test. The artist who is afraid to show anyone his talent for fear of rejection.
Fear plays such a huge part in our lives...fear of many things, but mostly from stepping out of one's comfort zone, even when it's not so comfortable. I've found myself holding onto things that made me unhappy and depriving myself of the joys God has for me simply out of fear of letting some things...go. Well, that and because I'm stubborn as hell. But what I've come to realize lately is that my holding onto something doesn't make it mine or even worth keeping. The tighter I try to hold on to something old, the more it keeps God from giving me something new. Yeah, I can be stubborn like that, but I'm also humble enough to know that sometimes I just get it wrong. Thankfully, He always gets it right. So, I continue to learn to let go.
The fear of letting something go is never a good enough reason to hold on to it.
There is the woman who cries herself to sleep after a long day of abuse (whether it's mental, emotional or physical, the heart can't differentiate between them) and yet stays because it's what she knows. Is there a better life outside the prison that has become her life? She may never know because of her fear of the unknown.
There is the man who stays with a job he's never been happy with because of the fear of starting over somewhere else. The woman who knows there is something wrong, but will not go to the doctor out of fear of an abnormal test. The artist who is afraid to show anyone his talent for fear of rejection.
Fear plays such a huge part in our lives...fear of many things, but mostly from stepping out of one's comfort zone, even when it's not so comfortable. I've found myself holding onto things that made me unhappy and depriving myself of the joys God has for me simply out of fear of letting some things...go. Well, that and because I'm stubborn as hell. But what I've come to realize lately is that my holding onto something doesn't make it mine or even worth keeping. The tighter I try to hold on to something old, the more it keeps God from giving me something new. Yeah, I can be stubborn like that, but I'm also humble enough to know that sometimes I just get it wrong. Thankfully, He always gets it right. So, I continue to learn to let go.
The fear of letting something go is never a good enough reason to hold on to it.


12 Comments:
It isn't easy to always remember that I'm not in charge. But when I quit struggling, how nice things are! So simple, so difficult.
Good to see a post from you, Kathi. :)
lynilu ~ thank you. I've not had much time lately...and I miss posting (and visiting!).
oh man... you could have written this for me. i get so consumed with fear that even trying a new recipe paralyzes me... seriously. stupid I know. But I also know it's no way to live... especially a life in Christ. I daily have to lay down my fear and pick up and move on. Sometimes it's not as quick as I would like but I keep pushing ahead ;~) love and miss you!
I have several friends who need to read this.
sometimes we hold on to a person because we are afraid that if we do not hold tight we'll lose them even if we know we lost them a long time ago
Fear is real, and debilitating. When in the thick of it, it can cloud our thinking and make it seem that joy is unreachable.
lovelladro ~ it's a common human shortcoming, huh? Usually it's mind over matter...but it's harder when it's mind over heart.
epsilonicus ~ then talk to them babe. Hey, hear anything about the promotion yet?
jbt ~ yup, if you've got to hold on tight it's probably too late to hold on at all.
believer ~ absolutely. It's Satan's smoke screen, it's hard to see through.
Wow, I really needed this message. Thanks Kathi!
A little confusing seeing a blog name I've used for 5 plus years being used by someone else.
Wonderful and wise words!
Hope you are well and happy, Kathi.
Margie :)
I was quite depressed a few days ago, partly because I'm leaving my job to start something new except, that new thing is yet unknown.
I'm glad that I read this blog post, you're right ... we are sticking to something because we're used to it and because we're scared.
I don't know where I'll be or what I'll be doing but I know one thing for sure, I have stepped out of my fear.
powerful kumar. I am so happy to tell you that Frank and I just got back from a wonderful second honey moon in Greece after renewing our vows. After being married for 10 years and 2 kids later, the luster had been long gone from our marriage until I found you. Our first wedding was in front of a judge, quick and to the point because neither of us could afford more. Our vow renewal was everything that we wanted and the honeymoon was absolutely amazing! It feels like we have fallen in love for the first time all over again. I owe you a big hug!powerful kumar(powerfulkumarspell@yahoo.com)
Thanks! ~ Cora, United States, Los Angeles, CA
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