Charlie was with his dad today, and for as long as Mark and I have been married, we've never believed in celebrating halloween. Casey has never wanted to, but Charlie has. We use to take the kids to the Church alternative parties, and they had fun.
Charlie did buy himself a mask a few weeks ago, and we talked about opening up the garage to Charlie and some of his music buddies on halloween night and letting them play their music as people walked by, and his wearing his mask if he wanted.
Back to today. Apparently Mark and his girlfriend are celebrating halloween and he was telling Charlie how great the house looked with all of it's ghosts and skeletons hanging all over the house and the yard. Charlie said that it was way over done, but that his dad was really excited about halloween this year. I don't get it, for 22 years we both were in total agreement, to not participate in halloween, and now he's taking Charlie to show off what he's doing and what Charlie can't do?
He also took Charlie to a halloween costume store where Charlie said his dad picked up over $50 in masks, gloves, bones, creepy music and things for his and his girlfriends halloween together. In the meantime I'm having to explain to Charlie why we can't afford to have pizza delivered. So...Charlie came home a bit bothered and then after he talked to me...I was bothered.
Charlie said that he thought his dad wanted to do things like this, things that we don't do here in our home, and maybe that's why he left. I hope he doesn't think that his dad being able to play dress up for halloween is more important to his dad than he and Casey are. But, his dads actions aren't helping to prove otherwise, and teenagers are smart...and sensitive. They may have adult bodies, but they're still children.
After Charlie came home, he and Casey went to teen fellowship. The meeting on Sunday evenings in the teens home is a new thing (2 weeks old) and when they grow to where there are too many to meet at one home, we're offering to be the second teen fellowship home. I'm looking forward to that. Casey would head it up himself, and I'm proud of how excited he is about it.
Short post, because I'm irritated. Sorry. Being angry or irritated doesn't lead to anything positive, so I'm just going to spend some time on my knees and get my mind refocused.
Hugs to all.
* Thanks for all your comments.